Sex is serious matter

Sex is important. Actually, way more important than politics. I truthfully believe in this and, in fact, this is the main reason I have started writing this blog. 

Just as a side note, this is a sex blog; anyone can easily see which category this entry belongs to at the top of the screen. Any reader who wants to read about other issues can very well click on other sections of the web or the newspaper.

(Why do I need to explain such a simple concept? I know my readers are all intelligent people able to grasp this in about a second… Just a few are not… This note is for them.) 

Sex is a serious matter; it has to be taken seriously. Seriously here is used not in the sense of gravely, solemnly or grimly. Seriously here means importantly. It has to be given emphasis, it has to be highlighted and it needs to be prominent. It cannot be taught by a booklet distributed to newlywed couples after blocking sex entirely from young people’s minds and lives up until that time. 

For those readers who may not be familiar with “the booklet,” it is a new booklet released by the Family and Social Policies Ministry as part of a pre-nuptial education program, suggesting that couples experience their wedding night “in a way that would please both sides.”

Oh, yeah, surely they will do that after reading the booklet released by Family and Social Policies Ministry. Oh, sure…

I will most certainly write about this booklet later, but now, my topic is the significance of sex, which I believe is more important than other serious matters in the country such as “politics.”

Just go back to your own lives or project yourself into the future, depending on your age… Which one is important? The new constitutional talks or your first kiss? Or do you care more about the urban transformation or what chances you have to end up with Sybil, from the office, tonight? Do you know the seat distribution according to parties in the parliament? Or the result of your or your wife/girlfriend’s pregnancy test? The Syrian conflict: Which one is more important: The note to Syria or the note that came from your significant other?

Of course sex matters more. Your sexual experiences, your relationship with the other sex, sexual issues count the most in this life, not what Obama does.

Sex is a serious matter. Especially in societies like ours, which is predominantly Muslim, but has been trying to be secular for the last 80 years, only to be exposed to “moderate Islam” for the last 10 years.

In such a transitional period, in such a delicate equilibrium, a woman talking freely and without restrictions about sex is intimidating. Especially for the traditional man who is just so much happier in a traditional world where women are kept “silent.” He would love to talk about politics and football and if possible he would like to “silence” that woman who talks and writes on sexual issues. And if possible every other woman who talks and writes freely…

I believe we can all gain from this relationship. (This blogger-reader relationship)  Non-Turkish readers get to know Turkish society better, Turkish readers have a chance to explore the theme with the advantage of communicating in English.

Yes, the fact that this blog is in English involuntarily raises the level of discussion. So, it is also a reason for some kind of comfort, especially for female readers in telling what they want to tell.

I wish more people were as comfortable as me in talking and writing about sex. It is good. To talk freely about anything that matters. 

If you want to talk about politics, please do … This place is for sex, relationships, how sex is perceived in Turkey, practices, social approaches, all aspects of it…

In an intelligent manner.

I’m sure we can do it…